There's Love in Letting Go
- Dr. Latishia Rae
- Dec 1, 2016
- 2 min read
There's a fear of what people will think, and the notion of if I hold on I'm doing something loving.. Actually, it's the most unloving thing you can do. Let me explain... If there's someone in your life, whether it's an intimate relationship, friend, family member, coworker, organization, place, town, or state. Yes, all of them are included! If when you interact with that person, place, or thing your thoughts and experiences are negative, that is the space the relationship is held in. What I mean is this, if every time you interact you're left with I wish they would do this, I wish they were like this, or I can't stand how they do that... This is how you view that person, and there's nothing that will change it other than that person's ability to change, or your view to change. 9 times out of 10 your view is not going to change if every time you are around them or go to that place, you're feeling this way on a consistent regular basis. You are holding them in your perception! Allow them to become something new, and yourself the possible experience of something new, better for you.
The idea of space or ending a connection is labeled as abandonment or not fighting for an important relationship. If it is that important... Meaning you have genuine concern for yourself and others, holding them in a negative space in your thoughts of them doesn't exemplify that, allow them the ability to reincarnate into a new being to you and for them. Reincarnation happens on this earth in this space everyday if allowed. Think of when you've disconnected from people who hold you in the space of how they believe you should be or show-up... Like relocating from a hometown, family, childhood friends etc.. It allows you the space to rebirth into a new being because you are not held in the needed view they have for you. The same fits for anyone or anything there is a negative connection with in your life. Take your attention away from them and allow them to grow into something new or better. Leave the constant interaction, and often you will discover that time, space, and reality changes things. It's the magic of running into that person from years ago and saying Oh my... You have changed, you look so good, and you are doing so well! You took your focus off the old them and allowed reincarnation of a new them. Shift your attention away from anything or anyone that is not pleasing and allow it the gift of becoming something new through reflection. Not only for you, but for them. As much as you want anyone to change they also don't want to be viewed, and held in the space as a negative being to you. Change is possible.
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